When picking schools to apply to, think about what motivates your child – and remember that for most people, the school picks your child not the other way round.
Choosing a school where to start
Make an honest list of everything you want for your child, however frivolous or peripheral it may seem. But be realistic about your little cherub. A not-very-academic child will be much happier in the top half of a non-selective school than bumping along at the bottom of a league table topper. And a not-very-sporty child could hate a school where the only high-fives you get in the playground are if you’ve won the school another shining sporting trophy.
Here are some ideas:
- narrowly academic or relaxed and creative
- social status
- very local, very convenient
- before and after school care
- a traditional approach or a relaxed outlook
- beauty of architecture
- state of the art facilities
- a stepping stone to a top-notch senior school or university
- curriculum flexibility at GCSE
- sport for all or top class coaching for high fliers
- an excellent reputation for dealing with learning difficulties or for the gifted, talented and able
- awards and scholarships/bursaries (for independent schools)
- religious ethos
- parental involvement
And for boarding:
- full or flexi-boarding
- exeats/holidays that fit in with your family life
- is within your budget
- all in fees or flexible extras
- environment - bustling town or away from it all country setting
- contact - how much, how often and how?
- Saturday school
Be prepared to revisit, refine and re-prioritise your wish list. But it will help you initially with your long-list, and later your short-list, of potential schools.
Practical considerations
There are, of course, practical considerations to throw in the mix too. You may have to rule out fee-paying schools because you can’t afford the fees; you may need a boarding school because you travel a lot; or perhaps you only have co-ed schools in your vicinity, which rules out single-sex.
How important is it to visit schools?
Choosing a school is a process of elimination. And it is vital you see several schools so that you have a point of comparison and can confirm or counter instincts you have about each one. Things to consider:
- How, and where, you want your child to end up.
- Your gut reaction - the atmosphere should be tangible and excite you. If the school doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right.
- The head - is he/she impressive? You don’t have to like him/her, but it helps; the head really does make or break a school.
- Staff - is there a member of staff at the school who is on the same wavelength as you? If your child is boarding, there must be someone you can turn to and feel in tune with.
- The pupils - do you see your child sitting amongst them?
- The bigger picture – it’s easy to judge a school exclusively by the bottom end because your child is young, but look at the end product too.
For more information on visiting schools, see Schools Open Days.
