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ADHD occurs up to four times more in boys than girls but increasing numbers of girls are being diagnosed as research reveals how differently it can present in females.

Hyperactive and Combination types of ADHD seem to be more frequent in boys, and as they often disrupt class, it’s a quicker route to referrals to professionals, whereas inattentive type ADHD symptoms present far more frequently in girls. They may seem unusually distracted, untidy, or late with assignments. While these behaviours may cause frustration and tension for the child, they usually don’t disrupt class or prompt parent-teacher conferences and rather than affecting others, the behaviours affect themselves.

Girls with ADHD often do not conform to traditional social roles, and they can be tagged with gender-specific terms such as tomboys, flaky, or spacey, terms we simply do not use for boys.

Though girls with ADHD can develop some antagonistic and anger issues and be oppositional, more often they become listless and isolate themselves socially from others. Attention difficulties like ADHD can co-exist with other behavioural conditions such as ASD or dyspraxia.

  • Not feeling liked and accepted by other girls
  • Worries that they can't keep up with all that is expected of them
  • Fears that their teacher will become angry at them
  • Dread that they will be embarrassed in class
  • A sense of being pummelled by criticisms and corrections every day

In girls, the disorganisation and distraction results in lack of activity - they are too confused to get things started. As girls with ADHD hit the teen years, the increased organisational demands of secondary school become too much. They may become tired and disheartened by poor school performance.

Both genders have trouble learning the nuances of social interactions but girls are more likely to become shy and withdrawn. They don't like the negative reactions they get when they don't tune in to the nuances. Boys are more likely to have social behaviour that is considered inappropriate; even if they get negative reactions, they continue.

Girls with hyperactivity may throw themselves into social relationships to compensate. They may be described as boy-crazy or party girls. Girls with ADHD may begin risk taking in sexual behaviours, or they may use drugs or alcohol, both as a result of increasing impulsivity, and in order to self-medicate. Shoplifting, teen pregnancy, and eating disorders are also found more often in females with ADHD.

Girls with ADHD tend to have fewer learning problems in the early years than their male counterparts. Boys often get diagnosed through an evaluation of their learning problems. Girls with ADHD, especially those with high intelligence, may actually be good students and/or well-behaved.

As a result often many girls with ADHD never receive diagnosis and options for support.

  • Identification is the first step in providing the support that is required, so act on your instincts if you suspect that something is different.
  • Support, and do not penalise, organisational weaknesses both at school and at home in aspects such as assignment due dates, having PE kit, and planning for tests and exams.
  • Be prepared to support homework requirements.  
  • Consider clubs and activities that offer options for socialising across a range of ages.
  • Monitor electronic communication with peers sensitively.
  • Often girls with ADHD may be extremely talented in specific areas so develop and support these areas of interest.
  • Consider counselling if issues of negative moods or anxiety occur, as in some cases they may not want to talk to teachers or parents.
  • Don’t rule out the option of medication to support attention and concentration skills.
  • Prepare the child for changes of routine and transitions.
  • Enjoy and embrace the differences in learning styles of girls with ADHD.

With thanks to Fintan O’Regan, a behaviour and learning specialist and author of Educating Children with ADHD

Case study: Sarah was in year 7 before her ADHD was diagnosed. She had done very poorly in her first term and she needed a lot of help to complete the things she wanted to accomplish. She was always overwhelmed. Even though she had always been anxious to do well, her family thought Sarah was irresponsible, and she started to believe them. Even good friends teased and called her names such as space cadet or airhead. Sarah learned to laugh along, but secretly she was ashamed and frightened, until she learned what the problem was.


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